Jackson is a college psychology professor, author, family counselor, and a mother of nine adult children. We have a standing joke in our home: When I was working toward a doctoral degree, my sons occasionally started spending money in their heads. In other words, they liked to plan what they were going to do with the money I was going to make. I always tell them that I am leaving all my money to the dolphins, so they will have to make their own ways in the world. On some level, like all jokes, there is some truth to what I say. I expect them to have jobs, work hard, and support themselves in life.
Here's What It's Like to Date When You Live With Your Parents
If Your Mom Ever Says These 10 Things, She Might Be Toxic
Same day service: If you have lost a parent or if your parents have split up, you might have to deal with the fact that your mom or dad is going to start dating again. When your parent picks up a new partner, it can be surprisingly disconcerting. While we might want to be happy for our aging loved ones, adult children can find their parents dating again can elicit all kinds of weird feelings. You might find that seeing your dad smile at his new fiancee is entirely pleasant. But you might end up harboring jealousy, frustration, or other negative feelings.
Still living with your parents at 30? Get a life
We hear it all the time in coaching circles and therapy. Once we heal our inner child and stop blaming our parents, we are able to fully and consciously go through life as evolved, enlightened human beings. I'm not denying the fact - nor have I talked to many people over the course of my coaching profession - that we all need to heal.
While everybody's parents made mistakes, went through tough times, or didn't always know the exact right thing to do, some people were raised by truly toxic parents, and it can show. If your partner's mom is toxic , the effect she had on them may still be sticking around — even years later. And it may even be dragging down your relationship. That's why it can be helpful to recognize these signs, not only to better understand why your partner acts the way they do , but also so you can be a better partner yourself, and help them through it. Which, of course, is totally possible to do.